For Your Anal Pleasure

Anal sex is still considered taboo by many people – for some people this is more of a turn on, for others that is a turn off. Whether you enjoy anal sex, want to give it a try or are just curious, read on for the steps to anal pleasure.

Anal penetration is not for everyone and that’s fine. Your partner may enjoy digital penetration, anal beads or a small dildo or vibrator. You need to respect your partner’s limitations and boundaries. Some people really enjoy anal play – but others do not.

Anal sex is becoming more acceptable and likely people you know are enjoying anal pleasure, whether they admit it to you or not. Let’s start with some basics. What are some reasons why people enjoy anal sex –

Reasons Why Some People Like Anal Sex

• “It feels good.”
• “I can’t get pregnant.”
• “It’s an alternative when I have my period.”
• “Vaginal sex is painful.”
• “I like double penetration.”
• “It is deeper than my mouth or vagina.”
• “I like the variety.”
• “I tried it and liked it.”
• “It is tighter.”

Prepare Yourself for Anal Play

For people who are leery of experimenting with anal play with your partner, you can try some of these tips on your own. When you are in the shower and when you’re participating in some self-love – you can test the waters to see if you may enjoy it. When you are bathing or showering and cleaning your anus – you can test a few things.

Use a clean hand to stroke your penis or your clitoris – depending on whether you’re a man or a woman. This will distract you and prompt feelings of stimulation which you can then associate with anal play.

Tense and tighten your anus – then let go. Repeat this several times while you continue to masturbate.

Take the opportunity to play with your anus in the bath or shower. Touch the area around your anus, maybe stroke the opening, and you may slip your finger in a little bit to see how it feels.

Massaging around the anal area with or without any plan to penetrate the anus will let you enjoy the pleasurable feelings without the apprehension of penetration. Any time you massage any part of the body, use massage oil or lube. This enhances the pleasure and reduces friction.

Using genital and anal play at the same time – can create a distraction and also enhance or double your potential pleasure.

Never rush the play – whether you’re playing by yourself or with a partner. Take your time. I recommend pushing your normal boundaries and experimenting, but if you truly don’t enjoy something, you should stop.

An anal tip – even with plenty of lube, you are likely to have some discomfort. Once the penetration passes a certain point, you can sense a very pleasurable feeling. With fingers and toys, you can also experiment with various size items, or only 1 or 2 fingers at first. Ease into it – literally and be patient. This is a reason why I recommend experimenting on your own before playing with a partner.

Anal Play Tips with Your Partner

Let’s start with a couple of facts – never rush your partner into something they aren’t comfortable doing. And, never do something that makes you uncomfortable just to please your partner. This is one of the many places in a relationship where you need open and honest communication. Once you decide that you are both ready for anal play, here are some tips.

Never Insist on Penetration – You don’t have to penetrate the anus to generate pleasurable sensations for your partner or yourself. Rubbing the anus with your fingers, the head of the penis, a toy or a tongue (known as rimming) – can all create great sensations. This can be a great start for people who are skittish about anal penetration.

Create Good Feelings – Like I mentioned above, anal sex can hurt and especially at first. But I’m very serious that it doesn’t have to hurt. Plenty of lube is a key – and there are specific lubes for anal play. Another key is to make sure he or she are relaxed and calm. It the person receiving anal play is tense, it will hurt more. Never take the “rip off the bandaid” approach. Shoving your fingers, a toy or a penis in quickly will not alleviate the pain and is likely to turn your partner off to the idea of future play.

Anal Play and Other Play at the Same Time – Like I mentioned above – its good to play with your partner’s anus while you’re doing something else with them. You may want to give your partner oral sex while you massage their anus with your finger or the tip of a toy – can be a great way to show them the possible pleasure, while you please other parts of their body. Multitasking is a great thing in life and definitely when having sex and making love. Never do this to trick your partner, but to begin to experiment with their agreement. Many women enjoy double penetration – and you can give her a taste of this sensation during intercourse with two people or one person and a toy.

Diet and Hygiene – Not to get graphic, but there are some things you need to consider to make your anal play more enjoyable and healthy. Eating fiber and raw vegetables will keep your bodily functions more regular, and this will help you be more confident about no “slip ups” during anal sex. Enemas can also be beneficial and especially for people who want to participate in anilingus and rimming – since these include oral contact around the anus. When engaging in any type of anal play, remember to clean your hands, penis, toys etc – when moving from the anus to the vagina. You can use a washcloth, a baby wipe, a different condom etc – but it is very important for her to stay healthy.

I hope these tips help you find ways to experiment and enjoy anal play – solo or with a partner. Remember, keep it fun and enjoyable for you and your partner and take your time to have the most fun.

Would you like to speak to someone about sexual questions in your life? Feel free to contact me at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com – I am a relationship coach and a Master Sexpert and can help people with a wide variety of love, relationship, and sexual problems and concerns.

Respect for Your Partner is Part of a Healthy Relationship

Respect is a basic human value. It is defined as an attitude of admiration or esteem for a person. This feeling is generally a result of how we feel about a person’s achievements. How much we care for the person can also contribute to the respect we show to them. While all people deserve respect, not many of they receive this.

Everyone wants to be respected by others but not everyone gets respect and some don’t act in a way that makes them deserving of it. To start, let’s define a person who deserves our respect.

First of all, keep in mind that in order to demand or expect respect, you will have to treat others with equal amount of respect. I’ve heard the phrase “demand respect” my entire life. But, I feel people earn our respect through their actions, words and deeds.

‘Respect’ is just a word, but what it means and how it reflects on us can make all the difference in how we see ourselves and others — and how we relate to future possibilities and choices.

Respect in Your Relationship

I feel the keys to a successful relationship include: open honest communication, trust, love and respect. These traits help us shine in the good times but also build our strength and resolve in the tough times.

Many successful relationships have been built around different political or religious believes, but it all boils down to respect. They are based on the belief that both partners are equal, that the power and control in the relationship are equally share. In a relationship, respect means listening each other, valuing each other’s opinions, and understanding the other’s emotions.

If you want to encourage and develop respect with your partner, here are some helpful tips.

First of all it is very important to have self-respect. Treat yourself with respect. If she sees that you don’t have any respect for yourself she might decide she doesn’t have to show you respect either, because it is not important to you.

Give what you take. Show respect if you want to be respected. Everyone wants to be admired and appreciated. If you show your girlfriend that she is important to you, she is more likely to show how important you are to her. Be attentive, give compliments, and make her feel comfortable and content with you. Admire and respect the person you are with and listen when she talks. She’ll love to spend time with you.

Relax. Women sometimes think men are mediocre because they have a boring personality. So, when you have a date with her relax and have fun and she will feel great with you. If she finds you uptight and boring you may get dumped. If you make her feel good she will respect you for the funny guy you are, it is a great quality to be able to make her smile even when she is sad.

Don’t lie. We all know women don’t like to be lied to. If she caught you in a lie she will definitely not have respect for you. But, if she sees that you are sincere with her, she will be proud of you and show more respect for you.

Be confident and polite. Look into her eyes when she talks to you and make her feel that you are a person she can trust. Show her that she can talk with you about any subject or problem and can count on your help. Don’t forget to be polite, this will bring mutual respect.

Both people in a relationship need to show respect and to have their partner show respect for them. Here are some ways you can do that for one another.

• Let each other feel comfortable about themselves
• Be able to when you’re wrong
• Be willing to compromise
• Respect each other’s opinions, feelings and friends
• Try to resolve conflicts by talking honesty
• Accept when one of you say no to things you don’t want to do

So, take a deep look at your relationship to see if you and your partner are doing these things for one another. If not, you should work on cultivating more respect for one another.

10 Things You May or May Not Know About Kissing

Kissing is something that most men and women enjoy and we know the mechanics of basic kissing. Let’s take a look deeper into kissing, you may even learn something new. Here’s a kissing fun fact.  Kissing releases endorphins and neurotransmitters (chemicals) like Dopamine, responsible for emotional arousal and Noradrenaline for physical arousal.  I wasn’t great at science is school – but that is the kind of chemistry I can enjoy.

I’ve heard the skin on the lips is 200 times more sensitive than the fingers. You’re aroused by touching your partner with your fingers, but it is much more stimulating to touch your partner’s lips in a kiss.

Many people like to have their neck and jaw kissed, but how about kissing the ear? Here are some tips and a warning or two. First, the tips – you can suck gently on your partner’s earlobe and run the tip of your tongue along the edge of the ear. Pay attention to your partner and how they react to these various things and then you will know what they prefer. Second – don’t make too much noise when you’re kissing the ear – remember you are right playing with the ear so everything is louder. Also, don’t be slippery wet with your play – a nice mix between too wet and too dry I great. Dr Ava, founder of Loveology University, says you get extra points for taking this opportunity to whisper something naughty to your partner.

Do you ever kiss your partner with your lips together, but your hips away from one another? William Cane, kissing coach and author of The Art of Kissing has a suggestion. If you want to crank up the heat and the intimacy, take a step closer and bring your hips together. Even clothed, pressing your hips together will heat things up between you.

I saw a report that said half of the men say that long, hot, steamy kisses are a great way to get them ready for sex. There are other ways to get him ready – like dropping your clothes to the floor or simply saying that you want him. But hot, steamy kisses are a way that you can both enjoy and that will get both your juices flowing.

Many men enjoy or at least fantasize about watching women together, kissing, fondling or having sex. A December 2008 Cosmo poll says that over half the women between 18 and 24 have kissed another woman. However, less than half the women between 25 and 34 have kissed another woman.

Would you have sex with a bad kisser? An article from eHarmony.com says that the answer to that question depends on whether you’re a man or a woman. Men are at least twice as likely to have sex with a bad kisser than women. Men, women – do you agree with their thoughts?

When your partner leaves, do you get a peck on the cheek or a full kiss on the lips? Kissing is one of the first things that can disappear in a relationship, so a first signal could be that the kisses get more innocent and shorter. If you notice your partner is barely kissing you – reach up, slide your fingers into his hair and pull his mouth closer to yours and remind him of how steamy things can be between you.

Have you noticed that men tend to do more open mouth kissing and become more aggressive as he gets more turned on? According to a study by the University of Albany, this isn’t a coincidence. Evidently, he wants to share the libido boosting testosterone with you, so he does this through an open mouth kiss.

Dr Ava also says that coy kisses aren’t enough sometimes. If you’re looking to turn up the heat with your partner – passionate, toe curling kisses will elevate your blood pressure, make your heart beat faster, get you excited and make it easier to orgasm. So, you can go for a short jog or you can enjoy some passionate kissing with your partner to get your heart pumping. Sounds like an easy choice for me…

Did you know that kissing involves a number of muscles? Twenty muscles have to coordinate for a kiss. Maybe that’s why not all kissers are equal.  The tongue is an important part of French kisses and body kisses and the tongue is made up of a group of muscle that makes it the strongest in the body – how do you work out your tongue? By the way – you have a “kissing muscle” which is used to pucker and its called the “orbicularis oris muscle”.

This information is included in my upcoming book about the Art of Kissing. While you’re waiting for the complete book, take a look at my FREE report on the Art of Kissing from Head to Toe – A Love Prints Report – http://myfreeinformationarticles.com/kissing-head-to-toe/

Learn to Love and Accept Yourself

People you want to find various ways to love life, begin your quest by looking at yourself. Do you love what you see? You need to understand that you are the captain of your own life’s journey. To pursue what you have in your mind – you need to understand two primary things. You must understand how far you are willing to go and what are you willing to risk to reach your destination.

This is often easier said than done. Our life becomes more challenging as years go by. You soon realize life is a phase you must conquer and sometimes a maze where you must understand every twist and turn in order to know where to go.

Listen to Your Heart

This may sound a cliché but it is true. The most important thing that can lead you to the right destinations is by listening to your heart’s desires. As you age, you realize life is complex. There are times that your heart is overpowered by anger or fear. There are many emotions that make it difficult for you to know what your heart is trying to say to you.

You must know how to balance your intelligence and your emotions. This is the reason why you have the ability to think things through. Your heart tells you what you want. Your mind balances everything by presenting you with your options along with the advantages and disadvantages of the various decisions.

In the end, it is a matter of determining what is really important and why. It may take years before you hone the details. But the idea is to continue on your journey even in those times when you feel like life is no longer giving you reasons to go on. There can definitely be times like that. But if you succumb to the negative situation, you lose all the hard work and preparation you have already done to reach the place you are in that journey now.

Take Another Look in the Mirror

You may not always like what you see in the mirror. But it doesn’t mean you should turn your back on it. You must learn to accept who you are. This includes your ugliness and all your imperfections, just like you love and accept your beauty and your strengths. It is a process of learning to balance the good and the not so good in order to make things work the way you want them to.

Here are some things you should consider in your quest to know yourself better and love your life more.

1. Everybody experiences problems. Just because there are times when you are faced with a disturbing dilemma, that doesn’t mean it is the end of the road for you. You must learn how to work things out and to overcome these bumps in the road of life. Understand that you are a unique person and you have your own unique ways of solving whatever problems you are faced with each day.

2. As you face each problem that you encounter, the situation will ease up as you learn the process. This will help you to be a better person and a better judge of what is good and what is not good for you. So, the next time you face another problem, you will know better how to handle it.

Keep a positive attitude towards loving life. It will make everything easier for you and will guide you to the right path as you come closer to achieving what you heart longs to gain.

Maintain Your Sex Life as You Age

Many people begin to worry about how to maintain their sex drive over 60. This can vary depending on the sex life they have had earlier in life. However, some people and especially women may feel more sexually free and enjoy sex more after menopause.

Sex is a satisfying part of most couple’s lifestyle and not something they want to lose. It is normal for a person’s sex drive to diminish as they get older. Specifically, those over 60 may find it is harder to get into the mood or to get their body to respond physically the way they want it to. Let’s share some tips that can help you and your partner – or feel free to share with friends or family who can benefit.

There are things you can do to help maintain your sex drive as you get older. Living a healthy lifestyle is going to have a significant impact for you so don’t blow it off. What you choose to do today is going to affect your health and your level of sexual desire as you get older.

Eating a well balanced diet is something you should incorporate into your life. If you aren’t doing it now, then start to make some small changes. As time goes on you will adjust to these changes and they will become second nature to you. Consuming too much caffeine can be a problem. If you aren’t getting all the vitamins and nutrients you need from food, you should take a quality supplement.

Make sure you take the time to exercise at least 30 minutes each day as well. Walking is very common for older individuals – it is low impact but very good for the body. Get a companion such as a friend or a dog that you can walk with each day. Some malls and other locations have indoor walking clubs which are perfect when the weather turns cold.

Maintaining a healthy weight is very important for your sex drive. The combination of a good diet with plenty of exercise will help you in this area. It also helps you feel great about how you look. Too many people are inhibited about sex as their body has changed from what it once was. That is going to be a fact of life for all of us.

Being happy with your body is important. Too many people start to notice all the small flaws as they get older. They will see every line and wrinkle on their body so they aren’t comfortable during sex. They don’t have self confidence that they are still desirable. They aren’t able to let go and enjoy what is taking place because they are too focused on such details.

Reducing the amount of stress in your life is important at all ages, but especially as you get older too. The toll it can take on both your body and your mind is more than most of us realize. Most people cannot be worry free as they get older. If your finances or relationships aren’t in the best shape, it can be hard to get past. But, do your best to reduce as much stress from your life as you can. It will help you in many ways and it will certainly help your sex drive because you won’t be preoccupied with other things.

If you are healthy as you get older, you will find it easier to maintain your sex drive and your sex life. Both men and women have the ability to be turned on sexually until a very late age in life. Men and women both have the ability to continue having orgasms into those later years as well. It all comes down to how fit a person is physically and mentally.

Age is merely a number though as anyone over 60 can tell you. Many of them continue to enjoy a sex life that is as wonderful as people in their 40s. It is something you can strive for in your own life as well. Make sure you are making healthy choices today so you won’t have too many issues that reduce your sex drive as you get older.

My Interview with Allisa Scott

Today – my sex positive interview continues and I’d like to introduce you to Allisa Scott.

Would you like to share your name? Allisa Scott

What prompted you to become involved in a love, relationship or sex related field?

From a young age I was fascinated with sexuality and the more I learned about how taboo it was in my family and then in society, the more I wanted to learn about it. It was a mysterious, fascinating and mystical world to me. I grew up in a conservative family and it was not something that was openly discussed (I was only told about sexuality when I was 11 and started to menstruate, and it was explained to me more in terms of my biological functioning than anything else).

When I went to university and found out there was a minor in studies in sexuality, I just had to obtain it. I then completed my first master’s degree with a focus on family, gender and sexuality, studying young women’s fluid sexuality. I then completed my masters of social work and have an interest in one day obtaining my sex therapy certification, but for now I am starting a private practice where I will be offering counselling in areas of gender and sexuality, and I am interested in couples counselling as well.

I have also been involved in the polyamorous communities and kink communities across southwestern and central Ontario in Canada. I have been involved with a number of conferences and continue to have an interest in academic and research components of sexuality as well. In addition I wrote a sex column for 6 years, briefly wrote for an online International Kink magazine, and am now writing for a local Rainbow Community (lgbtq) magazine.

In my personal life I realized that I was interested in more than just men romantically, so after becoming involved in numerous groups and committees and discovering where I fit into the sexuality spectrum, I have a great respect, and continued interest in areas of identity, sexuality, as well as gender orientation and the gender spectrum. I am an educator and trainer in these areas as well, and am very excited to make a career doing what I love.

What is your title? My official credentials/titles are as listed in this order: H.B.A, M.A., M.S.W., R.S.W., however, I also use the following titles: Counselor, Diversity, Gender and Sexuality Specialist, Counselor, Consultant & Trainer.

In a few sentences, how do you describe what you do?

I work with individual clients, groups or families to help them with issues related to gender and sexuality. I train agencies, businesses, and organizations to be more inclusive of diversity (including gender and sexual diversity), and I offer customized consulting in areas related to diversity.

What sort of education, background, experience etc do you have for this work?

Honours Bachelor of Arts, Minor in Studies in Sexuality, Masters in Sociology with a focus on Family, Sex and Gender, and a Master of Social Work. I am a registered Social Worker in Ontario. In addition I have many years of life experience working in/with numerous LGBTQ, kink, and polyamorous communities.

What sort of additional training did you feel you needed to do more for your clients?

Continue training in couple therapy techniques, as well as obtain my sex therapy training in the future (I plan to attend an intensive sex therapy training this upcoming summer).

How long have you worked in this industry?

I am just starting my business in February 2011, however, I have been an educator and trainer in areas of diversity, gender and sexuality for over 15 years now.

If you have a main focus or niche – what is it?

Gender and Sexual Diversity

What lead you to that specialty?

The search to understand my own fluid identity as well as a fascination in these areas, lead to my focus. I also find that few people are experienced in this area of work, and many people still mix up and misunderstand the difference between gender and sexuality. It impacts our lives in ways that people do not realize unless they are faced with it themselves, so I am interested to continue to offer education and bring awareness to these issues.

What has been the hardest thing about your work?

Acquiring the credentials to do this work in Canada. There are very limited options, and very little awareness about the field of sexuality as a career at schools. So this lead me to take an untraditional route to getting certified (I did not take a BSW as many people would, or go to the Sexuality program at the University of Guelph as it was not an option for me at the time). Now it will continuing to legitimize the field of gender and sexuality in the fields of counselling, consulting and training.

I have also found funding to be an issue. Unless you are directly related to a research grant or have your own funding for this type of work, it is not always supported or understood. Therefore, I took a lot of unrelated jobs or was underpaid for my work as a result. It has been hard, but I am finally going to do the work I have been wanting to all these years!

What has been the most rewarding thing about your work?

In counselling, it has been: working with people, and empowering them to get comfortable in their own skin, reconnecting families with one another after someone comes out, being able to support and recognize people when they are misunderstood by others, taking part in positive change and healing in people’s lives. Connecting to people or giving them space to be heard or recognized when they have been forgotten, left behind, hurt or lost in some way.

In consulting and training, it has been given the opportunity to expand people’s understanding of gender and sexuality to show them how it relates to their lives and the work they do, to actively be involved with reducing discrimination because of educating people, to support and network with local organizations and communities to create partnerships and stronger, more inclusive cities.

Tell us about your business.

My business is called Inclusive Counselling, Consulting & Training. I will be offering individual, couple, group or family counselling in areas of gender and sexuality as well as other areas of therapy. I am also training to offer online therapy. I am available to assist organizations with becoming more inclusive by offering training, or by working with their Human Resources teams to optimize their worker satisfaction and inclusion.= as well as meet the needs of Canadian legislation (i.e. Human Rights Code, Canadian Equity Act, as well as the new Accessibility for Ontarians with Disabilities Act.

How long have you been in business?

I will be starting in February 2011. Before this, I have worked in numerous related jobs.

Did you expand an existing business?

When I originally decided to start my own business, I was only going to offer counselling and training, but have been requested to offer consulting because of my areas of expertise in diversity, so I am now offering consulting as well. So I did not expand an existing business, I just expanded my current business idea before I started business.

Do you have a website and/or blog?

My website is http://www.inclusive-cct.ca/ and I am considering a blog and newsletter as well.

How could someone get in touch with you?

Contact me at my email at: inclusive.cct@gmail.com or at allisascott@gmail.com If someone requires my phone number they can email me and ask for a phone consultation.

Who are your favorite types of client?

Clients that are willing to be open to the change process, explore themselves, expand their minds and welcome more diversity, difference and inclusion into their lives and/or business. This goes for working with individual clients and with organizations. I think too many businesses are more concerned with their legal “due diligence” that they do not realize how non-inclusive they are, or who may be getting left out in their current training.

How do you promote your business?

I will be promoting locally online and in print. However, I will be expanding to promote my business elsewhere once I am certified incyber counselling because I can then work with clients internationally.

Have you written any books or developed any products for your clients?

Not yet, but I plan to.

Nikki Leigh Interviewed on Unsolved Issues Tonight at 7 pm

Nikki Leigh, relationship coach, is a guest on Unsolved Issues radio with Dreama Jennings – listen live at 7 pm ET or join the chatroom (you need to register to access the chatroom) http://www.unspokenissues.com/2011/03/nikki-leigh-love-coach-sexpert-march-24_22.html

This is what Dreama had to say about my ebook – Make it Happen! Discover More Love and Passion. “I simply love Nikki Leigh’s books and normally I’m not much for ‘love advice’ but this book changed my opinion. Nikki wrote in such a way that I found myself wanting more. Nikki truly can reach into the hearts of us all to help us realize all of us truly do deserve love Thank You Nikki”

Get your FREE copy of my ebook on love coaching – http://myfreeinformationarticles.com/make-it-happen/ and my ebook on Art of Kissing from Head to Toe – http://myfreeinformationarticles.com/kissing-head-to-toe/.  There is a special offer in the back of each ebook. You can connect with Love Prints Relationship Coaching on Facebook – http://www.facebook.com/pages/Love-Prints-Relationship-Coaching/188040544549076 – or they are for sale on Amazon for 99 cents each.

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Taking It to the Next Level: Are You Ready for Engagement?

Once you’ve been dating the same person for a significant amount of time without running into serious problems, you start thinking about your next step as long-term lovers: engagement. I know because I’ve been there, and I had all kinds of questions running through my head before my fiancé proposed. I wondered about having kids, making investments, relocating, dealing with our families for the holidays, and so many more details that I can’t list them all. So even if the duration of your time together has you thinking about marriage, there are many other factors to consider when it comes to engagement.

What exactly should you think about? There are plenty of topics to mull over, but answering these five important questions for yourself can help you assess your relationship. You might not be automatically convinced one way or the other about getting engaged, but you’ll be better prepared to bring up and answer the right questions when the time comes.

1. Are You Content & Self-Sustained?

Before you bring another person into your life, you need to make sure that you’re well grounded in your own career, social circle, home, finances, and – most importantly – your ability to accept yourself. Try to put yourself into your lover’s shoes: would you marry you? If you have the self-confidence to say “yes” with conviction, you’re in a good place for engagement.

2. Do You Feel Enriched by Your Lover?

When you’re enjoying the company of your significant other, do your friends notice that you have a more positive attitude? Often, when two people complement and inspire one another, it’s obvious to the people who know them as individuals that they’re meant to be. For example, you might act more generous or friendly when you go out with your significant other, and that’s a sign that you have a healthy relationship that could be taken to the next level.

3. Can You Speak Openly?

If there’s something you’re afraid to talk about with your significant other, then your current level of openness with one another leaves something to be desired. Love isn’t always about the easy, fun, or romantic things. It’s also about the tough things that make you question yourself and your relationship. If you don’t talk about your concerns, fears, mistakes, and other negative thoughts as well as the positive ones, you won’t be prepared to navigate the ups and downs of a married life together. Being comfortable with shared feelings, even when they’re difficult, is another step toward a healthy engagement.

4. Do Your Values & Goals Match?

Don’t rely on marriage to change anything about your partner. If there’s anything you can’t accept about one another now, you should work on it before you consider engagement because change isn’t always possible. However, if your values and goals match up, that’s one more thing you can check off the list of compatibility factors.

5. Can You Enjoy the Daily Grind Together?

If you get frustrated or bored with one another when you bring your work home with you or have to do laundry, you might reconsider the seriousness of your relationship. Marriage means that you’ll be living together no matter what happens, and if your life together isn’t always exciting, you still need to be happy to be in one another’s company. If you feel comfortable and positive whenever you get to spend time with your significant other, that’s a good sign that you’ll make a happy couple.

Bio: Maria Rainier is a freelance writer and blog junkie. She is currently a resident blogger at First in Education where she writes about education, online degrees, and what it takes to succeed as a student working towards an online bachelors degree from home. In her spare time, she enjoys square-foot gardening, swimming, and avoiding her laptop.

Nikki Leigh Talks About Relationships on the D’Anne Burley Show

Friday March 18 – Nikki Leigh, relationship coach, is a guest on the D’Anne Burley show – to listen live (7-8 pm ET) or to download the show later, visit http://www.blogtalkradio.com/danneburleyshow/

Get your FREE copy of my ebook on love coaching – http://myfreeinformationarticles.com/make-it-happen/ and my ebook on Art of Kissing from Head to Toe – http://myfreeinformationarticles.com/kissing-head-to-toe/.  There is a special offer in the back of each ebook. You can connect with Love Prints Relationship Coaching on Facebook – http://www.facebook.com/pages/Love-Prints-Relationship-Coaching/188040544549076

Understanding a Woman’s Fantasies

Many people make the choice to keep their fantasies to themselves and some share them with their same gender friends. The healthiest decision is to share your fantasies with your partner in an open and honest way. I know this can be difficult and we may worry what they will think, how they will react and in some cases, we worry about whether our partner will make fun of our fantasies. Only you and your partner know if you can communicate honestly with one another about your fantasies.

While women like to talk about their feelings – they may find it difficult to tell their partner who and what they fantasize about. So men – let me share some things with you that could be very helpful. However, keep in mind that all women are different – so these details are only a starting point…

• Many women fantasize about things, activities and people who are familiar to them.
• In her mind, this can be because she sees this as a safe way to find pleasure without cheating on or betraying you.
• Women usually fantasize on an emotional and personal level – that can be more important than the appearance of the person they fantasize about.
• This can include how a man respond to them, the way they interact with one another and how they are “touched” by a man – emotionally, mentally and physically. (Remember it’s a fact that the brain is the largest sex organ.)
• Men and women are likely to include the face of the person they fantasize about. Women do this because they want to see signs of how the person is reacting to them. That is very often conveyed by a person’s facial expressions.
• Emotional arousal can and often is more important than sexual arousal – at least initially.
• Women want affection from their partner and they want that person to be committed to them.
• The interaction, behavior and thoughts of the partner are important to the women
• Women usually notice any other people in the fantasy, where the fantasy takes place, the plot behind the fantasy and what is being said and done. This can definitely include more intimacy with their partner, caressing, massaging, etc. (This sounds a lot like feminist porn to me.)
• This will surprise you – women’s fantasy are likely to include being dominated
• Women usually want to be viewed as the object of sexual desire and they want to receive pleasure – not just be expected to give their partner pleasure.
• These fantasies can include a lot of foreplay and take time to unfold – although its not uncommon for women to fantasize about a passionate quickie which may happen in a public or semi-public place.

I think we all realize that each person is different and you or your partner could be very different and you need to be able to communicate with your partner to determine their boundaries – in your sex life and in her fantasies. But this gives you some ideas to start understand more about women and their sexual fantasies.