How to Use Body Language to Seduce Women

Body language is a very useful tool that you can utilize in your seduction of a woman. Keep in mind that approximately 50% of your communication comes from your body language while only 8% of your communication comes from the words you say. That substantiates my theory that you should pay more attention to what people do instead of what they say… but that’s a topic for another post.

In addition to your actions, you need to be aware of how you say things. What tone do you use? Do you sound bored? Do you sound desperate? How do you stand? Do you crowd the person – invading their personal space?

You can also get insights into what a woman is thinking or feeling from her body language. But for now, let’s focus on how your body language can and will be interpreted. The more you learn about understand the body language of other people – the more you are likely to notice your own body language.

Here are some of the body language basics.

Eye Contact

It is important and make and maintain eye contact. People often figure that you are lying if you won’t look them in the eye. Have you ever watched “Judge Judy”? That is a reason why she insists that the people in her courtroom look her in the eye when they talk. Even if you are nervous and anxious – it is very beneficial to look a person in the eye when you are talking to them. In turn, you will notice if they are avoiding your eyes when they talk. A word of caution, don’t give the impression that you are staring at a woman – this can seem very creepy. It can be a fine line for some people – but with practice, you can look her in the eye and maintain eye contact with a woman while you talk to her.

Stand Up Straight

We all know people who walk hunched over and especially when taking some time off and relaxing. But when you talk to a woman you want to impress, stand up straight and show her you are confident and strong. It will also make you more attractive to her and anyone else around you.

Smile 

This doesn’t mean you should leer at a woman, but give her a genuine smile. This is especially important the first time you approach her to talk with her. Practice with other people to get used to smiling naturally. When you are in a store or walking through a parking lot or down a sidewalk, practice smiling at people – you may be surprised how many people smile back at you.

Hands – Advanced Tips 

First – don’t use your hands too much when you talk. You have probably been around people who seem to be swatting at flies when they talk. This is very distracting to others and can make you look very funny. Its good to use some hand gestures, but not a lot. Just something you should be aware of.

There is a trick that you often hear about how to use your hands when you meet a new dog or cat – but it is also useful when you meet new people. Although I recommend that you be more subtle with people.

When you meet an animal, you should hold your hands out to them and turn your hands so your palm is showing. That includes top to bottom or from the side. You don’t want to show the back of your hand – this can have a number of aggressive and bad connotations. Instead, hold your hand with your palm up or at an angle, with your palm up when you shake someone’s hand.

To see some interesting hand movements in positive and negative ways – watch politicians or very successful business men when they meet a peer or a rival.  That has nothing to do with fingers or cruel gestures, but watch how they approach the person, how they hold their hands and grip the person’s hand and so on.

These are just a few basics, but it will help you start noticing how you appear and how the woman perceives you. Practice it with some friends and some strangers and then look at yourself in the mirror to learn more.

Nikki Leigh 

Award winning author and certified relationship coach. 

http://www.lovecoachjourney.com 

 

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Should You Participate in a Threesome with a Couple

In an earlier article, I shared pros and cons for couples who are considering participating in a threesome or moresome. Now – let’s talk about the single man or woman who is considering joining a couple for a threesome.

Everything I’ve read, says most (if not all) men fantasize about threesomes – preferably with two women. I think many women like the idea of a threesome although they may hesitate to say it.

Let’s start at the beginning – you fantasize about being in a threesome, maybe with a couple of men, a couple of women, a man and a woman or maybe more people.  Think about multiple hands, arms, legs, butts, breasts and so many other parts — where would you start? Not to ruin the fun, but before you join in, you should consider some things.

Here are some possible types of people you could join in a threesome –

• It could be a committed couple – married or not.
• It could be two “friends with benefits”.
• It could be a friend of yours and a friend of theirs.
• It could be two people you know.

Each of these scenarios has pros and cons for the single person. Why are you interested in being in a threesome?

• A very common reason is to fulfill a fantasy
• A common reason is because you’re curious
• Explore and learn more about yourself and your sexuality
• Learn new sexual skills and try new sexual activities
• To get more attention from the same sex, the opposite sex or both
• Experiment with bisexuality, heterosexuality or homosexuality
• Learn new ways to please your partner
• Discover new things that please you
• You may want some sexual variety or just more sex
• To be a voyeur and watch other people please each other
• To be an exhibitionist or have people watch you
• Liberate yourself from the usual social and religious constraints

Here are some things you need to consider before getting into a threesome –

• Are you afraid? If so, this isn’t the time to try a threesome.
• Do you feel anything for the people involved? Jealousy is very common in threesomes.
• Are you participating to please someone, but not yourself? Your decision to do anything sexually should be because you want to do it.
• What are your motivations and the other people’s motivations? If any of you have bad motivations or a hidden agenda, the threesome is likely a bad idea.
• If you hope to make a lasting connection with a married man or woman through a threesome, you will likely be disappointed.
• Have you already dealt with any hang-ups you have about sex or your sexuality? If not, you need to do that first.
• Are you prepared for any complicated emotions and feelings that are likely to come up? There can be complications, so you need to be prepared.
• Are you worried about someone “out-performing” you? You need to deal with these feelings of inadequacy before participating.
• Are you concerned about the other people’s motivations? If so, don’t proceed until you feel their motivations are good.
• Can you trust the other people who are participating in the threesome? For safety sakes and your peace of mind, don’t participate with people you cannot trust.

Most people will tell you threesomes can be very enjoyable, but with the wrong people or the wrong motivations, it can be a negative experience. Review the possible reasons you want to be in a threesome and make sure you’re prepared, physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually. Do everything you can beforehand, to ensure you have a hot, sexy and very satisfying threesome.

A love and relationship coach can help you prepare for new sexual activities in a relationship or can help you to prepare for a relationship. Feel free to contact me for more information at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com

Body Language – What to Do and What Not to Do

Body language is one a strong way to communicate your feelings, moods, attitude, and personality. In fact, did you know that over 60% of communication comes from nonverbal cues? These include body movements and speech volume, pitch, and pacing.

However, there are body gestures and movements that are considered rude and inappropriate. Proper body language has a right place and a right time. Usually we are usually unaware of our actions. So, it is time to start learning the types of body language that we should avoid and that may be offensive to other people.

Body Language to Avoid In A Job Interview

A job interview is a very important step for any job applicant. The key to success to be hired for a job doesn’t only depend on your resume and application. The employer would pay special attention to the way you move and act. So, it is critical for any applicant to be conscientious about your body language when being interviewed.

You should avoid slouching – this indicates laziness and boredom. Don’t tighten your body muscles – this will make you look stiff, nervous and lacking in confidence. It is never good to put your hands in your pockets as well – this makes you look anxious and uncomfortable. Lack of confidence is also indicated by tapping your foot, drumming your fingers, and fidgeting.

Ways to Signal You Are Interested

Several signs that you are interested include eye contact, and one must be able to maintain it. This indicated the focus of your attention is on that person. Frequent nodding and leaning your body towards the person indicates that you are listening to him or her and want to be closer.

Subtle touching can show you are interested. This can be touching their hand, arm, back etc. Once you are closer to the person, this touching can be more personal, maybe on the face or cheek, around the shoulders or the waist.

Examples of Rude Body Language

There are many gestures that are considered to be rude by most people, or that indicate you are avoiding any interaction with them. This includes crossing the arms across the chest, holding objects such as books and a bag in front of you, frequently checking the time on your watch or the clock, stroking your chin, standing too close, staring or narrowing your eyes, forcing a smile, placing your hand on your waist, slouching, touching your face frequently, blinking more than usual, foot tapping, and many other similar things.

It is likely you are familiar with some of these gestures and have noticed when other people do these things. We do many of these things unconsciously, but the people you are talking to may be offended by these actions whether you do them purposely or not.

Posture And Body Movements

A person who maintains a good posture is a person who can relax into a chair, but still keep their back straight, with his chin tipped up slightly and shoulders pulled back. We show confidence by maintaining eye contact and a firm handshake, but not a crushing handshake. Poor posture is shown by slouching – that posture usually shows laziness or lack of interest. If you have a posture that shows confidence, people will treat you with more respect.

Be Conscious Of Your Actions

Be aware of how your body move or act. You might be sending signals of rudeness even at times when you do not realize or mean to do it. Make sure you maintain a good posture and perform the gestures that are appropriate for the place, time and situation. You might want to consider the cultural background of the person you are talking to, and adjust to fit their acceptable behavior and body language.

Interview with Art Noble

Would you like to share your name? Art Noble

What prompted you to become involved in a love, relationship or sex related field? Or, what helped you to be a “sex positive” person? My experience.  I’m just a guy with an engineering background, a former college professor who had a transcendent sexual experience.  It opened a tiny path from my left-brain to my right, or something.  I’ve been blessed by knowing some fantastic women and cursed with curiosity.  My academic background aided my research into just what the heck is going on.  There is a lot more than we know!

What qualifies you to be a “sex positive” person? Tell us how you contribute to the growing “sex positive” community. Any and all of us can be “sex positive”.   It is simply a matter of attitude, which is hard to change after 5000 years of misogyny.  I have the ability to learn and teach.  My sexual experience is beyond modern sexual science, so I have had to research the ancients, before sex got a bad rap.  Along the way, I found out when, where and why sex got a bad rap.  I teach that along with anatomy and physiology (sexual responses).  Also, female sexual anatomy is fascinating even from a clinical view.  It terms of creating sexual energy, women are three times more equipped for it than men, and as Teserais said, “If parts of love’s pleasure are divided by ten, Thrice three go to women, one only to men.”

In a few sentences, how do you describe what you do and how you help people to be more “sex positive”? I point out the when, where and why of sexual negativity so that my readers and listeners can face, trace, erase and replace their negative inhibitions with positive thoughts and possibilities.  I teach that every woman is different.  I teach them about anatomy and what their bodies are capable of when their minds are no longer cluttered with misinformation.  (It’s epigenitics, but we won’t get in to that here.)  A good example is the male prostate (source of ejaculate) consists of 12-14 ducted glands around the urethra, neatly enclosed in the prostatic capsule, snuggled up next to the bladder.  The female prostate consists of 40-42 (+/-) ducted glands, generally near the opening of the urethra (meatus).  But, these glands are not encapsulated and may be scattered along the urethra in a cone shape, narrowing toward the bladder, or in a lop-sided dumbbell shape.  These glands are still called “non-functioning para urethral glands” by many in the medical community, but believe me they “function” just fine in many women!  Since female ejaculation is preceded by “the urge to void” as Masters and Johnson noted while women shut down in their lab, many women do not ejaculate out of fear of urinating on their lover.  They deprive themselves of 10 times the pleasure they could feel, if they let go.  Men need to know this too!

What sort of education, background, experience etc do you have for this work? I view sexual love as a spectrum and wherever people are, they are.  I simply point out that it is a spectrum and there is far more than they are aware of. Then, I give them intellectual tools to use to increase their acceptance of their partner’s responses, increasing their enjoyment of the spectrum.

What sort of additional training did you feel you needed to do more for your clients? I teach and I write.  My last book, The Sacred Female, describes first-time, female ejaculation in a 42 year-old woman.  (It is reported first-time for women in their 60’s, so it’s not just for kids!)  It also alludes to orgasmic vaginal discharge, a much more copious (and pleasurable) flow, which may be amrita, as tantra names it.  It also includes orgasmic bioluminescence, or “Dragon’s Fire/Breath,” where one or both may glow, emitting photons, lighting a darkened room.  As I said earlier, my experience goes far beyond science, but science has a long way to go.

 

How long have you been “sex positive”? I’ve always liked sex but my first epiphany was when it occurred to me, girls were not for taking to bed, they were for waking up next to.  Now, THAT’S an epiphany!  Next, was the transcendent experience that led to a minor transformation.  I say minor, because I am still growing.

How did your “sex positive” journey begin? My main focus is love.  Sexual love is not the only transformative experience.  It is just the most fun.  But other forms of love are fun too.  And the more forms of love we can incorporate in our lives, the easier our growth will be.  Of course, I’m trying to “engineer” love too.  It has the two attributes of energy: transmittal and transformation.  Guys can get a hold on these concepts!  What happens to our minds and bodies to transform us is a kind of alchemy!  Although, science in Russia is beginning to investigate this “love” stuff, we have a long way to go there too.  But for our purposes, rather than focusing on this stuff, the easiest way is to focus on giving and receiving love from your partners.  Since, whatever you call God, is probably better at it than you are, get your ego out of the way and let God do it through you.  You’ll be amazed!

If you have a main focus or niche – what is it? Love is the answer!  I always thought that was bull-hocky, but it works naturally to create what we call “miracles”.  With love, “miracles” are an everyday occurrence.  And “hot sex” becomes a nuclear explosion!  Sex is not an Olympic event; it is a mechanism for transmitting love, so that we may be transformed.  When men can see a yoni, a sacred place, rather than a hunk of meat, they will be amazed at what can happen to them.  And women, recognizing a wand of light that is giving them the gift of love…  Ahhh!  What a wonderful world it will be.

What is the hardest thing about your work? The hardest thing is overcoming 5000 years of misogyny: religious, political and personal as expressed by “voices of authority.”  In 1886, Kraft-Ebbing said, “Female ejaculation is a lesbian condition.”  In 1905, Freud said, “A woman views a mucous discharge from the vagina as disgusting.”  (It comes from the urethra, Dummy!)  But, in the Judeo-Christian ethic, female ejaculation was believed to be required for conception for 3000 years and probably more… and was promoted by the Roman Catholic Church!  Access to a blog can be found on my website, www.thesacredfemale.com.

What has been the most rewarding thing about your work? As men and women find greater pleasure in the conduct of their sexual lives, I am happy.  As they are transformed, this is really neat!

Tell us about your business. Business?  I have an MBA, but this is a passionate mission.   I teach (Lectures, no labs).  I am a writer and a poet.  Obviously, as an engineer, I was a technical writer before the poet was awakened.  Now, I find it fun to blend the two into English so people can understand what I say, and I do it with a sense of humor.  I am currently writing a book with Dr. Beverly Whipple and Dr. Franceen King as contributing editors.  The tentative title is, The Alchemy of (Sexual) Love.  It is taking shape.  It has gone from “blob” to “mish-mash”, and the next step is a “hodge-podge”.  Soon, it will be a book.

My website is http://www.thesacredfemale.com. My radio shows are archived on Women’s Radio Network at http://www.womensradio.com/users/Al-Cole-and-Art-Noble/707/episodes.html or you can access them and my blogs on Women’s Radio Network through links on my website.

Do you have a website and/or blog? My website has a contact page and the address is info@thesacredfemale.com.  Women’s Radio Network also has contact information under their speaker’s bureau.

Who are your favorite types of client? My favorite type of “client” is one in whom I can see the lights come on!  They get it!  But, if they are simply willing to listen for a while, that’s great.  The lights may come on later.

Would you like to share your most unusual experience? Having answers for questions I may not have asked.  Knowing people’s names I’ve never met, and I’m lousy with names!

How do you promote your business? I promote my mission on the Internet mostly: website, radio shows, interviews, and recently an e-mail campaign for The Sacred Female.

Have you written any books or developed any products for your clients? Yes.  My “product” is information, both oral and written: The Sacred Female, and my work in progress, The Alchemy of (Sexual) Love.  (Do you see how sneaky I am by getting in a lot in this interview?)  The Sacred Female is available on Amazon, Kindle, Barnes and Noble, etc., and I have it in e-book format as well as hard copy on the website.  There are some great reviews there, so I’ll let somebody else blow my horn for a while.

Thank you for taking the time to share information about yourself and your “sex positive” experiences and your journey. Thank you, Mitzi.  I always appreciate the opportunity to get a little information out into the public.  There are more of us out there.  Keep up the good work.

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“It isn’t what I do, but how I do it. It isn’t what I say, but how I say it, and how I look when I do it and say it.”  – Mae West

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For Your Anal Pleasure

Anal sex is still considered taboo by many people – for some people this is more of a turn on, for others that is a turn off. Whether you enjoy anal sex, want to give it a try or are just curious, read on for the steps to anal pleasure.

Anal penetration is not for everyone and that’s fine. Your partner may enjoy digital penetration, anal beads or a small dildo or vibrator. You need to respect your partner’s limitations and boundaries. Some people really enjoy anal play – but others do not.

Anal sex is becoming more acceptable and likely people you know are enjoying anal pleasure, whether they admit it to you or not. Let’s start with some basics. What are some reasons why people enjoy anal sex –

Reasons Why Some People Like Anal Sex

• “It feels good.”
• “I can’t get pregnant.”
• “It’s an alternative when I have my period.”
• “Vaginal sex is painful.”
• “I like double penetration.”
• “It is deeper than my mouth or vagina.”
• “I like the variety.”
• “I tried it and liked it.”
• “It is tighter.”

Prepare Yourself for Anal Play

For people who are leery of experimenting with anal play with your partner, you can try some of these tips on your own. When you are in the shower and when you’re participating in some self-love – you can test the waters to see if you may enjoy it. When you are bathing or showering and cleaning your anus – you can test a few things.

Use a clean hand to stroke your penis or your clitoris – depending on whether you’re a man or a woman. This will distract you and prompt feelings of stimulation which you can then associate with anal play.

Tense and tighten your anus – then let go. Repeat this several times while you continue to masturbate.

Take the opportunity to play with your anus in the bath or shower. Touch the area around your anus, maybe stroke the opening, and you may slip your finger in a little bit to see how it feels.

Massaging around the anal area with or without any plan to penetrate the anus will let you enjoy the pleasurable feelings without the apprehension of penetration. Any time you massage any part of the body, use massage oil or lube. This enhances the pleasure and reduces friction.

Using genital and anal play at the same time – can create a distraction and also enhance or double your potential pleasure.

Never rush the play – whether you’re playing by yourself or with a partner. Take your time. I recommend pushing your normal boundaries and experimenting, but if you truly don’t enjoy something, you should stop.

An anal tip – even with plenty of lube, you are likely to have some discomfort. Once the penetration passes a certain point, you can sense a very pleasurable feeling. With fingers and toys, you can also experiment with various size items, or only 1 or 2 fingers at first. Ease into it – literally and be patient. This is a reason why I recommend experimenting on your own before playing with a partner.

Anal Play Tips with Your Partner

Let’s start with a couple of facts – never rush your partner into something they aren’t comfortable doing. And, never do something that makes you uncomfortable just to please your partner. This is one of the many places in a relationship where you need open and honest communication. Once you decide that you are both ready for anal play, here are some tips.

Never Insist on Penetration – You don’t have to penetrate the anus to generate pleasurable sensations for your partner or yourself. Rubbing the anus with your fingers, the head of the penis, a toy or a tongue (known as rimming) – can all create great sensations. This can be a great start for people who are skittish about anal penetration.

Create Good Feelings – Like I mentioned above, anal sex can hurt and especially at first. But I’m very serious that it doesn’t have to hurt. Plenty of lube is a key – and there are specific lubes for anal play. Another key is to make sure he or she are relaxed and calm. It the person receiving anal play is tense, it will hurt more. Never take the “rip off the bandaid” approach. Shoving your fingers, a toy or a penis in quickly will not alleviate the pain and is likely to turn your partner off to the idea of future play.

Anal Play and Other Play at the Same Time – Like I mentioned above – its good to play with your partner’s anus while you’re doing something else with them. You may want to give your partner oral sex while you massage their anus with your finger or the tip of a toy – can be a great way to show them the possible pleasure, while you please other parts of their body. Multitasking is a great thing in life and definitely when having sex and making love. Never do this to trick your partner, but to begin to experiment with their agreement. Many women enjoy double penetration – and you can give her a taste of this sensation during intercourse with two people or one person and a toy.

Diet and Hygiene – Not to get graphic, but there are some things you need to consider to make your anal play more enjoyable and healthy. Eating fiber and raw vegetables will keep your bodily functions more regular, and this will help you be more confident about no “slip ups” during anal sex. Enemas can also be beneficial and especially for people who want to participate in anilingus and rimming – since these include oral contact around the anus. When engaging in any type of anal play, remember to clean your hands, penis, toys etc – when moving from the anus to the vagina. You can use a washcloth, a baby wipe, a different condom etc – but it is very important for her to stay healthy.

I hope these tips help you find ways to experiment and enjoy anal play – solo or with a partner. Remember, keep it fun and enjoyable for you and your partner and take your time to have the most fun.

Would you like to speak to someone about sexual questions in your life? Feel free to contact me at lovecoachjourney@gmail.com – I am a relationship coach and a Master Sexpert and can help people with a wide variety of love, relationship, and sexual problems and concerns.

Interview – Kevin Johnson

I’d like to share an interview a friend and associate – his name is Kevin Johnson. He is the marketing manager for Pipedream Products (some blog visitors are familiar with some reviews I’ve done for Pipedream). Kevin also does some gorgeous photography and he’s going to share some details about both of these topics.  Read on for more details.

Would you like to share your name?

Kevin Johnson (aka Boots Bryant)

What prompted you to become involved in a love, relationship or sex related field? Or, what helped you to be a “sex positive” person?

I’ve always been a sexual person ever since I hit puberty at the age of 11. I was raised in an extremely strict religious household and while sex was talked about, it was very forbidden and restricted. Naturally, being somewhat of a born rebel, I gravitated to whatever was forbidden by my parents and began to explore sex early on. I of course made mistakes along the way, so as an adult I enjoy being able to help educate people on things of a sexual nature so they can hopefully avoid some of the pitfalls I found.

What qualifies you to be a “sex positive” person? Tell us how you contribute to the growing “sex positive” community.

Real life and on the job experience. I’ve been in the adult industry since 2004 in various positions including marketing, PR, and product development. One of the products I designed/developed recently won a 2011 AVN Award and several more are nominated for XBIZ Awards this year.

Currently, I am the Public Relations Manager for one of the leading adult novelty manufacturers in the world. Part of my job is helping customers understand products better and educating them on how they work. We have an ‘ask a Sexpert’ section of www.PipedreamProducts.com and I’m in charge of getting those questions answered for people, either by myself or someone on our Sexpert team.

I’m also a freelance writer and photographer and use these mediums to inspire people to use their imaginations again. With the glut of in your face porn that is out there, I feel like there isn’t enough fuel for people to use their minds anymore. Between erotic fiction and artistic nudes and fetish imagery, I help people to unlock their imaginations.

In a few sentences, how do you describe what you do and how you help people to be more “sex positive”?

I have always been the ‘go-to-guy’ for friends who have questions about sex or need to talk about thing of a sexual nature that they can’t confide in anyone else. Now I just get to do it professionally at my day job. A lot of people are new to the world of sex toys, and won’t ask a clerk in a store face to face questions they may have about sex or specific products. But having a place to come where they can anonymously ask a Sexpert, they’re a lot more comfortable.

What sort of education, background, experience etc do you have for this work?

All of my experience has been culled from real life and on the job. I come from a Writing, PR & Marketing / Sales background, then moved into being a professional toy reviewer, to product developer and back to PR & Marketing.

What sort of additional training did you feel you needed to do more for your clients?

I’ve literally helped make sex toys from the initial concept & design, to a working prototype that I tested and sent back for revisions. This trial and error process forces you to learn about anatomy, your body, as well as the toys themselves better than merely reading a book in school. I’ve learned a lot about materials and ingredients and enjoy being able to help people by sharing this knowledge with them before they go and shell out their hard earned money on a toy that isn’t right for them.

How long have you been “sex positive”?

As I said, I’ve always been a sexual person since I hit puberty, but I really started taking this seriously as a career and profession in the last five years once I learned I could talk about dildos, butt plugs and anal eaze without blushing.

How did your “sex positive” journey begin?

In therapy while I was in Junior High School crying about how I wanted to kill myself because I was gay. The therapist helped me realize that I’m still a good person and that I should work toward one day helping other people realize that they are okay for exactly who they are. We all have our own unique individual fingerprints on our hands. I think the same is true when it comes to our sexual preferences and sex identities. We should be more open as a society in accepting each other and appreciating the beauty in diversity.

If you have a main focus or niche – what is it?

Photography. I do both mainstream (weddings/headshots/event) and adult (artsy nudes and fetish) and use a different name for the more adult oriented work.

What lead you to that specialty?

A friend asked me to take some naked photos of him for his online profile after he was recently single. They came out REALLY good. Shortly thereafter, I got to interview Joe Oppedisano when I was writing an article for AVN Magazine and he was releasing a coffee table book. I got to go assist him on this shoot and decided that is what I wanted to do, but with my own finger print on the finished image. I’m still working at it.

What has been the hardest thing about your work?

Finding the time to do everything. I don’t get many nights of sitting and watching TV or doing nothing. I don’t remember the last time I uttered the words “I’m bored.” And I don’t get to hang out with friends as often as I’d like.

What has been the most rewarding thing about your work?

Getting private emails from friends or strangers who tell me that I helped them feel better about themselves, or find self acceptance, or that my work helped them find pleasure by having a better orgasm.

Tell us about your business.

Business #1: Pipedream Products is a leading manufacturer of adult novelty and pleasure products. More information about the company can be found here: http://pipedreamproducts.com/about_us-10b.phtml — If you have questions about any of our sex toys they can be asked on the Sexpert area of our site: http://pipedreamproducts.com/sexpert-2.phtml or by emailing: info@pipedreamproducts.com

Business #2: BootsBryant.com – freelance writer and photographer available to help with public relations, brand consulting, marketing, publicity and photography needs. I also have several projects that I’m working on including a magazine, apparel and coffee table books I plan to release in the next couple of years. Since I do have a full time day job, these projects are what I work on in my spare time when I’m done with work for my clients.

How long have you been in business?

I launched my website in 2008. It currently routes to a page where a wall calendar of my work is being sold and will be put back and re-launched in the spring to showcase a complete portfolio of my work.

Do you have a website and/or blog?

www.bootsbryant.com – main site

www.igotdirtyboots.wordpress.com – photography blog

How could someone get in touch with you?

contact@bootsbryant.com

Who are your favorite types of client?

People who are friendly and enjoy bouncing ideas off each other.

How would you describe your ideal client?

Someone who keeps their end of the bargain in a deal, pays on time and is down to earth and talks like a regular person.

Would you like to share your most unusual experience?

I ran an ad scouting for models for a specific project and ended up getting a response from a guy who hired me to take pictures of him for his own private use. He was a preacher, married to a woman, and they had two kids. He wanted to be stripped naked and tied up and have it photographed and paid me to do this and give him a disc of the images.

How do you promote your business?

Total grass roots marketing here. Passing out my cards at events I’m working, social networking sites, word of mouth referrals from satisfied clients and a little online advertising now and then.

Have you written any books or developed any products for your clients?

I haven’t written any books, but I’ve had short fiction stories published. As I mentioned before I developed several product lines some of which have been nominated or received awards in our industry.

If so, definitely share some details and links for more information.

So as not to disrupt the peace at my current full time employer, I can’t divulge details on my product lines that I developed. They were released by a competitor.

What did I forget to ask?

Am I on the twitter? Why YES I am… www.twitter.com/thebootsbryant – I had to put ‘the’ in front of my name because someone has the other parked and empty. I’m also on Facebook: www.facebook.com/bootsbryantmen – these are where people can keep up to date on my fetish artsy adult photography and projects I’ll be releasing later this year.

Those interested in sex toys should fan Pipedream www.facebook.com/pipedreamtoys or www.twitter.com/pipedreamtoys – we’re always doing fun contests and giveaway for chances to win FREE goodies.

Thank you for taking the time to share information about yourself and your “sex positive” experiences and your journey.

Respect for Your Partner is Part of a Healthy Relationship

Respect is a basic human value. It is defined as an attitude of admiration or esteem for a person. This feeling is generally a result of how we feel about a person’s achievements. How much we care for the person can also contribute to the respect we show to them. While all people deserve respect, not many of they receive this.

Everyone wants to be respected by others but not everyone gets respect and some don’t act in a way that makes them deserving of it. To start, let’s define a person who deserves our respect.

First of all, keep in mind that in order to demand or expect respect, you will have to treat others with equal amount of respect. I’ve heard the phrase “demand respect” my entire life. But, I feel people earn our respect through their actions, words and deeds.

‘Respect’ is just a word, but what it means and how it reflects on us can make all the difference in how we see ourselves and others — and how we relate to future possibilities and choices.

Respect in Your Relationship

I feel the keys to a successful relationship include: open honest communication, trust, love and respect. These traits help us shine in the good times but also build our strength and resolve in the tough times.

Many successful relationships have been built around different political or religious believes, but it all boils down to respect. They are based on the belief that both partners are equal, that the power and control in the relationship are equally share. In a relationship, respect means listening each other, valuing each other’s opinions, and understanding the other’s emotions.

If you want to encourage and develop respect with your partner, here are some helpful tips.

First of all it is very important to have self-respect. Treat yourself with respect. If she sees that you don’t have any respect for yourself she might decide she doesn’t have to show you respect either, because it is not important to you.

Give what you take. Show respect if you want to be respected. Everyone wants to be admired and appreciated. If you show your girlfriend that she is important to you, she is more likely to show how important you are to her. Be attentive, give compliments, and make her feel comfortable and content with you. Admire and respect the person you are with and listen when she talks. She’ll love to spend time with you.

Relax. Women sometimes think men are mediocre because they have a boring personality. So, when you have a date with her relax and have fun and she will feel great with you. If she finds you uptight and boring you may get dumped. If you make her feel good she will respect you for the funny guy you are, it is a great quality to be able to make her smile even when she is sad.

Don’t lie. We all know women don’t like to be lied to. If she caught you in a lie she will definitely not have respect for you. But, if she sees that you are sincere with her, she will be proud of you and show more respect for you.

Be confident and polite. Look into her eyes when she talks to you and make her feel that you are a person she can trust. Show her that she can talk with you about any subject or problem and can count on your help. Don’t forget to be polite, this will bring mutual respect.

Both people in a relationship need to show respect and to have their partner show respect for them. Here are some ways you can do that for one another.

• Let each other feel comfortable about themselves
• Be able to when you’re wrong
• Be willing to compromise
• Respect each other’s opinions, feelings and friends
• Try to resolve conflicts by talking honesty
• Accept when one of you say no to things you don’t want to do

So, take a deep look at your relationship to see if you and your partner are doing these things for one another. If not, you should work on cultivating more respect for one another.

10 Things You May or May Not Know About Kissing

Kissing is something that most men and women enjoy and we know the mechanics of basic kissing. Let’s take a look deeper into kissing, you may even learn something new. Here’s a kissing fun fact.  Kissing releases endorphins and neurotransmitters (chemicals) like Dopamine, responsible for emotional arousal and Noradrenaline for physical arousal.  I wasn’t great at science is school – but that is the kind of chemistry I can enjoy.

I’ve heard the skin on the lips is 200 times more sensitive than the fingers. You’re aroused by touching your partner with your fingers, but it is much more stimulating to touch your partner’s lips in a kiss.

Many people like to have their neck and jaw kissed, but how about kissing the ear? Here are some tips and a warning or two. First, the tips – you can suck gently on your partner’s earlobe and run the tip of your tongue along the edge of the ear. Pay attention to your partner and how they react to these various things and then you will know what they prefer. Second – don’t make too much noise when you’re kissing the ear – remember you are right playing with the ear so everything is louder. Also, don’t be slippery wet with your play – a nice mix between too wet and too dry I great. Dr Ava, founder of Loveology University, says you get extra points for taking this opportunity to whisper something naughty to your partner.

Do you ever kiss your partner with your lips together, but your hips away from one another? William Cane, kissing coach and author of The Art of Kissing has a suggestion. If you want to crank up the heat and the intimacy, take a step closer and bring your hips together. Even clothed, pressing your hips together will heat things up between you.

I saw a report that said half of the men say that long, hot, steamy kisses are a great way to get them ready for sex. There are other ways to get him ready – like dropping your clothes to the floor or simply saying that you want him. But hot, steamy kisses are a way that you can both enjoy and that will get both your juices flowing.

Many men enjoy or at least fantasize about watching women together, kissing, fondling or having sex. A December 2008 Cosmo poll says that over half the women between 18 and 24 have kissed another woman. However, less than half the women between 25 and 34 have kissed another woman.

Would you have sex with a bad kisser? An article from eHarmony.com says that the answer to that question depends on whether you’re a man or a woman. Men are at least twice as likely to have sex with a bad kisser than women. Men, women – do you agree with their thoughts?

When your partner leaves, do you get a peck on the cheek or a full kiss on the lips? Kissing is one of the first things that can disappear in a relationship, so a first signal could be that the kisses get more innocent and shorter. If you notice your partner is barely kissing you – reach up, slide your fingers into his hair and pull his mouth closer to yours and remind him of how steamy things can be between you.

Have you noticed that men tend to do more open mouth kissing and become more aggressive as he gets more turned on? According to a study by the University of Albany, this isn’t a coincidence. Evidently, he wants to share the libido boosting testosterone with you, so he does this through an open mouth kiss.

Dr Ava also says that coy kisses aren’t enough sometimes. If you’re looking to turn up the heat with your partner – passionate, toe curling kisses will elevate your blood pressure, make your heart beat faster, get you excited and make it easier to orgasm. So, you can go for a short jog or you can enjoy some passionate kissing with your partner to get your heart pumping. Sounds like an easy choice for me…

Did you know that kissing involves a number of muscles? Twenty muscles have to coordinate for a kiss. Maybe that’s why not all kissers are equal.  The tongue is an important part of French kisses and body kisses and the tongue is made up of a group of muscle that makes it the strongest in the body – how do you work out your tongue? By the way – you have a “kissing muscle” which is used to pucker and its called the “orbicularis oris muscle”.

This information is included in my upcoming book about the Art of Kissing. While you’re waiting for the complete book, take a look at my FREE report on the Art of Kissing from Head to Toe – A Love Prints Report – http://myfreeinformationarticles.com/kissing-head-to-toe/

Learn to Love and Accept Yourself

People you want to find various ways to love life, begin your quest by looking at yourself. Do you love what you see? You need to understand that you are the captain of your own life’s journey. To pursue what you have in your mind – you need to understand two primary things. You must understand how far you are willing to go and what are you willing to risk to reach your destination.

This is often easier said than done. Our life becomes more challenging as years go by. You soon realize life is a phase you must conquer and sometimes a maze where you must understand every twist and turn in order to know where to go.

Listen to Your Heart

This may sound a cliché but it is true. The most important thing that can lead you to the right destinations is by listening to your heart’s desires. As you age, you realize life is complex. There are times that your heart is overpowered by anger or fear. There are many emotions that make it difficult for you to know what your heart is trying to say to you.

You must know how to balance your intelligence and your emotions. This is the reason why you have the ability to think things through. Your heart tells you what you want. Your mind balances everything by presenting you with your options along with the advantages and disadvantages of the various decisions.

In the end, it is a matter of determining what is really important and why. It may take years before you hone the details. But the idea is to continue on your journey even in those times when you feel like life is no longer giving you reasons to go on. There can definitely be times like that. But if you succumb to the negative situation, you lose all the hard work and preparation you have already done to reach the place you are in that journey now.

Take Another Look in the Mirror

You may not always like what you see in the mirror. But it doesn’t mean you should turn your back on it. You must learn to accept who you are. This includes your ugliness and all your imperfections, just like you love and accept your beauty and your strengths. It is a process of learning to balance the good and the not so good in order to make things work the way you want them to.

Here are some things you should consider in your quest to know yourself better and love your life more.

1. Everybody experiences problems. Just because there are times when you are faced with a disturbing dilemma, that doesn’t mean it is the end of the road for you. You must learn how to work things out and to overcome these bumps in the road of life. Understand that you are a unique person and you have your own unique ways of solving whatever problems you are faced with each day.

2. As you face each problem that you encounter, the situation will ease up as you learn the process. This will help you to be a better person and a better judge of what is good and what is not good for you. So, the next time you face another problem, you will know better how to handle it.

Keep a positive attitude towards loving life. It will make everything easier for you and will guide you to the right path as you come closer to achieving what you heart longs to gain.